I concede – I too think Kiki is awesome.
I think/hope I can see what Ben meant about her – she’s awesome, they’re friends, he can only love her in the best-friend way, and couldn’t ever see himself with her in a relationship.
And now I can’t remember if she’s the one he’s got the backup plan with… You know the backup: “if we’re both 40 and single and haven’t found anyone yet, let’s just get married”.
Ok, so I can’t completely get rid of all of the jealous anxiety just yet.
Ultimately, I’m waiting (however impatiently) for the moment where I’m that comfortable with him, and comfortable with how he feels about me, to not be jealous at all.
Imma be waiting a while, aren’t I?
I blame the newness (surely there’s a better word than that), the distance and the lack of official commitment yet.
NYR reminder – focus on the present – try to be patient, the future will come and it will sort itself out one way or another.
Theory #9: Engineering situations to ensure a specific future is not necessarily a bad thing – in fact I’m hoping it’s a way of getting what you want sooner, rather than having to wait for it.
I’ll expand on this thought later.
– Dr O.