Be careful. Know what you’re getting yourself in to. Take it slowly. Are you sure this is the right thing to do?
It is wise to learn from your mistakes, and vicariously, through the mistakes of others.
I recently read a post by Of Fries And Men that reminded me of a story my mum had told about someone she was seeing when we lived in Scotland when I was five.
The guy was called Nick, and he was amazing. Mum talked about how fantastic he was, he was perfect for her, he was wonderful with us kids, he was everything she was hoping for and at a time when she really needed the reassurance that there are good guys out there.
Except he turned out to be a liar.
About everything. And he had a wife and kids he was lying to on the side. And his name was actually Matt.
And my mum was devastated. It crushed her. It took her a long time to trust again and be able to move on with life.
This, and countless other cautionary tales, serves as a reminder that even when the world seems perfect, it only holds that precarious position momentarily, as it can all come crashing unexpectedly down.
Now a more pessimistic person than myself might make a logical fallacious jump to assuming that my relationship with Ben is on such a precipice, and therefore to tread the ground carefully and take it slowly when uprooting so much of my life.
But I’m willing to risk it. I want us to succeed far more than I fear the consequences of us potentially failing.
If things fail, then you are allowed to tell me “I told you so” or “We warned you about this”.
I will listen to your advice and experiences, but I will not make a decision because in someone else’s previous similar situation it failed miserably. I cannot live my life cautiously and safely and not get to experience it at all.
Theory #23: Regrets are bigger for non-events.
Now it is just a matter of time until all of the pieces are in place.
– Dr Gigi Orist.
The Orist. 